Tired of Overthinking? This Mental Shift Changes Everything.

You know that feeling when your brain just won't quit?

You're replaying conversations. Rewriting emails in your head. Running every possible scenario like it’s your job to predict the future.

You're not lazy. You're not broken. You're just stuck in a loop your mind keeps rehearsing.

And the truth is, most of the time… it’s not helping. It’s draining your focus, your confidence, and your energy.

Tired of Overthinking? This Mental Shift Changes Everything.Just Because It’s a Thought Doesn’t Mean You Have to Act on It.

Imagine this scenario: You’re sitting quietly—maybe sipping your morning coffee, driving to work, or walking the dog. Everything seems fine on the outside. But inside?

Your mind starts doing laps. Overthinking!

“What if I fail?” “

I should’ve said this, not that…”

“I need to fix this now.”

“Maybe I’m not good enough.”

Suddenly, you're not present anymore—you’re in your head, tangled in what-ifs and self-deprecation critique. One thought leads to another, and before you know it, you’re 30 minutes deep into a conversation that never happened, defending yourself in a meeting that doesn’t exist. Paying interest on a mortgage you haven't even taken out.

Sound familiar? Yeah... welcome to being human.

But here’s the kicker:

You are not your thoughts. You don’t even have to do anything with most of them.

Let’s unpack why that matters—especially if you’re someone who’s constantly striving, building, leading, or just trying to stay aligned with who you really are.

The Hidden Truth About Your Thoughts

Most of us live like we’re inside our thoughts. As if they’re the directors, and we’re the actors just following the script.

But what if that’s not the case?

What if you’re not the actor… What if you’re the observer? Better yet, the director.

Imagine yourself as the fly on the wall—watching a movie unfold. That movie? It’s made up of:

• Old programming from your past
• Fear-based projections of the future
• Loops you didn’t choose but keep running anyway

These thoughts aren’t coming from some inner sage. Rather, they're simply echoes of our conditioning. Emotional leftovers. Unquestioned scripts.

And when we engage with them, especially the ones soaked in fear or doubt, we feed them. We give them power.

So… what if you didn’t?

The Mental Clutter Effect

Picture your mind as a two-part workspace:

• One side is a bright, open studio—full of light, creativity, and clarity.
• The other? A cluttered garage, jammed with outdated tools, broken beliefs, and boxes of assumptions and beliefs you haven’t opened in years.

If you don’t clear out the mental garage, your focus can’t breathe. Your intuition can’t speak. Your energy can’t flow.

Because energy follows attention. And if your attention is buried in mental clutter, you’re giving life to what you don’t want—on repeat. Over and over, caught in the rinse-and-repeat habitual thinking cycle.

The Observe & Choose Method (O.C.M.)

This is what I teach my clients when they’re stuck in thought loops, doubting themselves, or burning out from mental noise. It’s five steps—but one decision:

Stop reacting. Start observing.

Here’s how it plays out:

1. Observe

Step outside the thought. Watch it like a movie scene.

“Ah, there’s that fear of failure again.” No judgment. No engagement. No action to be taken. Just awareness.

2. Disassociate

You are not the thought. You are the observer of the thought. That separation is the cure. Distance is everything.

3. Choose

Ask, “Does this thought move me toward what I want?” If yes, energize it. If not, let it go.

"Is this a helpful thought?" No! Then let it go.

4. Redirect

Refocus on what you do want. Because your subconscious is always listening. And it’s waiting for direction. If you don't plant a new direction, it has no option but to act on what it already knows. Whether that works for you or not. Its job is to follow orders. Orders you might have programmed it with years ago.

5. Allow

Let space do its job. You don’t need to force clarity. You just need to create the conditions where it can find you. Step into the space of allowance.

Why This Matters (For You, Me, For Everyone)

We live in a culture that glorifies action. Do more. Move faster. Hustle harder.

But the next level of leadership—of self, of business, of life—doesn’t come from reacting to every thought. It comes from learning to pause, to consider, to choose, and to trust.

Why? Because when you stop giving energy to every thought, something powerful happens:

• You create space.
• From this space, you gain insight.
• From this space, you tap into your intuition.
• From this space, you unleash your creativity.
• This is the space of curiosity.
• This is where thriving comes from

And in this space? Your clarity returns. Your creativity flows. Your inner compass starts working again.

And your subconscious finally says, “Ok! Got it. We’re going this way now.”

Final Thought

So the next time your mind spins up a storm and you're overthinking, try this:

It's possible that just because I thought it, it doesn’t mean I have to do something about it.”

You’ll be amazed at how much power returns when you stop reacting on autopilot—and start choosing on purpose.

Over to You

What’s one thought loop that’s been draining your energy lately?

Drop it in the comments—or just sit with it quietly. And maybe, for once, don’t engage. Just… observe. Just be a fly on the wall of your own "crazy." Don't engage, don't act, don't create lists, don't journal...just watch.

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