Your Closest 5

We don’t make decisions in a vacuum. Every big leap, quiet doubt, or moment of hesitation is influenced by the people we surround ourselves with. That’s why one of the core pillars in Paint It Red is this: Your five closest people shape your direction, your standards, and ultimately, your outcomes.

Think about that for a second. Who do you call when you’re unsure? Who do you brainstorm with when you’ve got an idea brewing? Who do you quietly compare yourself to, even if you don’t admit it?

If you’re surrounded by people who challenge you to think bigger, push harder, and stay grounded, you grow. If you’re surrounded by people who default to fear, delay decisions, or settle for “good enough,” you shrink.

The point isn’t to judge. The point is to be strategic.

Ask yourself:

• Are my five closest people aligned with the kind of person I want to become?
• Do they support action, and progress. Or confusion, comfort, and delay?
• Am I one of their five who helps them grow?

You don’t need to cut people out. But you do need to consciously lean into the relationships that elevate you. And gently create distance from the ones that don’t.

Your five closest people don’t just influence your life, they help decide it.

For Myself

This lesson about the five closest people isn’t theory for me, it’s lived experience.

In my Olympic weightlifting days, the people around me made or broke my progress. The right training partners pulled intensity out of me I didn’t know I had. Coaches who believed in me kept me going when doubt crept in. But when I trained with people who coasted, complained, or cut corners? I started slipping too mentally more than physically. That lesson stuck.

In my career, it was the same story. The teams that thrived were the ones where excellence was the standard not the exception. When I was around leaders who challenged assumptions and made bold, thoughtful decisions, I leveled up. When I was around people who played small or feared risk, I caught myself playing it safe too.

And in business partnerships? Nothing exposes alignment (or lack of it) faster. Shared values matter more than shared goals. If someone doesn’t match your level of clarity, communication, or conviction, the partnership strains. No matter how promising it looks on paper.

So, I’ve learned to be intentional. Not ruthless. Just clear. I check in often: Are the people closest to me pulling me forward or holding me still? Am I doing the same for them?

It’s not just about success. It’s about who you become along the way.

Questions | Comments for the Week

1. How has your inner circle been beneficial in your career aspirations?
2. Are there people in your life that are fun, but are not necessarily a good influence?
3. If you could be part of someone else's "5", what would you do to support them?

Author's Corner

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Have a great week.

Chris