Shifting Your Perspective: Reframing Your Thoughts for a Brighter Outlook

Over the past year, I’ve been part of Jason Roncoroni 's Ordinary Hero Coaching initial coaching program cohort. Many of the coaching techniques he taught us helped me improve my own mindset and relationships. Things like allowing more space and silence in conversations, asking better questions, and maybe the most impactful thing - reframing how I look at things that happening in my world. 

Reframing is a technique that involves changing the way we interpret situations and experiences. Instead of focusing on the negative, we try to find a more positive or constructive perspective. This can be done through a variety of methods, such as:

• Identifying and challenging negative thought patterns. Common thought traps include all-or-nothing thinking, discounting the positive, and overgeneralization. By recognizing these patterns, we can begin to question their validity and replace them with more realistic and balanced thoughts.
• Focusing on the positive aspects of a situation. Even in difficult times, there are silver linings. By looking for the good, we can shift our focus from the negative and cultivate a more optimistic outlook.
• Practicing gratitude. Taking time each day to appreciate the good things in our lives can help us develop a more positive mindset.

The benefits of reframing are numerous. It can help to:

• Reduce stress and anxiety. Challenging negative thought patterns helps you break free from the cycle of worry and fear of the future. It sounds corny but focusing on the good things makes it easier to deal with your world.
• Improve mood. Cultivating a more positive internal dialogue can uplift your spirits and combat depression. My wife can attest that I’m less moody when I practice thinking about the things that are going my way.
• Enhance relationships. Reframing helps you view others with more empathy and understanding. 
• Increase resilience. Building a more flexible mindset lets you better navigate challenges and setbacks. 

Reframing is not about denying reality or pretending that everything is perfect. It's about choosing how we interpret the world around us. By shifting our perspective, we can unlock a world of possibilities and cultivate a more fulfilling and joyful life.

Additional Tips for Reframing:

• Work with a coach. A coach can help you identify and challenge negative thought patterns that are holding you back.
• Monitor your thoughts. Paying attention to the types of thoughts you’re having can make it easier to identify and reframe negative patterns.
• Surround yourself with positive people. Spending time with positive people can help to shift your own perspective.
• Set realistic goals. Setting and achieving small goals can help to build self-confidence and reinforce a positive mindset.

Reframing is a skill that takes time and practice to develop. However, the rewards are well worth the effort. By learning to shift our perspective, we can create a more positive and fulfilling life for ourselves.