LET’S GET STICKY

Communication is by far the most common skill used at work, so when thinking about effective communication, word choice matters a lot.  However, when constructing a comment or a conversation, there are other equally important considerations.  Your goal is to offer a sticky message.  One that is heard, understood, and seriously considered or addressed.  For a message to be really sticky, you must think about what you say, how you say it, and choose the right communication channel.

What you say

Step one is to make the briefest message possible that actually conveys the information you wish to share.  Excess is bad for many reasons.  Recall the old motto from the USA Today newspaper:  an economy of words, a wealth of information.  Keep it as short as possible.  The point is a back-and-forth dialogue, not a chance to just hear yourself speak. 

To choose the right words, you must be very clear about what it is you wish to accomplish.  Your objective might be to influence one of their upcoming decisions, to show support, to offer help, to share information they might find valuable, to determine where they stand on an issue, to gain their support for something you are pursuing, etc.  Let the objective shape the words. 

Get the right words, then, at least for more important messages, edit.  An email, a call or video call, or face-to-face – always prepare and then edit.  An email is a traditional written word edit.  An edit for a call of any kind or face-to-face is just jotting down a few bullets and rehearsing so you can hear how it sounds and adjust as needed.  The more important the message, the more you practice and edit. 

How you say it

Regarding actual live human to human modes of communication (not texts, group apps, etc.), you must think about the emotional tone you wish to convey.  Do you want to show urgency or calm?  A tone that is positive or critical?  A mix?  How you speak to different individuals should vary a little since we are all unique.  Depending on the needs of the message and what you know about the person or persons, choose an appropriate delivery style before engaging. 

Of course, much of what you say comes through body language.  Know your face above all else.  Your brow and eyebrows, your eyes, your mouth, your head movement – all send big signals.  Don’t assume you know what they are saying.  Go find honest feedback.  Then, depending on the message and audience, moderate your face appropriately.  Depending on the circumstances, some people need to wake up their face and learn to show more emotion while others need to know their face is loud and must be tamed. 

The communication channel

Think about the importance and urgency of the message.  The more important, to you and those receiving the message, the more you must use a high-quality means of communicating.  Texting and messaging are not high-quality!  In fact, they often cause problems because the quality of the information shared is suspect.  You thought you said A, but they heard B.  Reserve the use of these efficient but not so effective mediums for unimportant messages that are not sensitive.  Always resist using them in place of more direct methods like face-to-face.  Communicating challenging messages is a skill and you can lose it if you don’t use it, so stop texting and start talking. 

If you feel the message is important to all involved, step up to a phone call.  Not only is the human voice powerful but communicating in real time allows everyone to speak up and ask questions or ask for clarification if needed.  If the message is very important, use a video call, or better yet, go see them in person.  Nothing trumps live in-person communication in terms of the richness of the information shared.  Here’s the rule:  when in doubt about which channel to use go one higher than you were contemplating to ensure quality.

Look, professionals typically spend fifty to eighty percent of their time communicating, and the majority of that is some form of talking.  For leaders, research suggests that eighty to ninety percent of their time is spent communicating.  So, do we want to waste our time or make messages that stick?  Start by remembering the tips noted here and most of your messages should be sticky enough to have a lasting impact. 

WHAT’S UP WITH DR. D?

My household is nuts right now.  My wife’s sister is visiting, which is great.  My wife is feeling not so good, thanks cancer.  The disease was really in check for a while and back now in many places…new treatment plan forthcoming.  My granddaughter is trying to figure out if she wants to stay in Texas for college or return to Ohio – so many pros and cons!  My son Parker is trying to finalize his college choice – it’s looking like it will be the University of Texas.  He’s excited about Austin.  I’m still trying to get rid of whatever is in my chest.  My pulmonologist has me on meds that I think are starting to work.  My wife’s sister brought her tiny dog with her, so now we have two dogs running around and they are adorable.  Professionally – things aren’t quite on hold, but most of my energy is focused on my wife and this household for now.  Chasing a few speaking leads I’ll talk about later.  For now, go hug someone you love, okay?    

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