Chapter 2: Solutions to the "Bore-Out"

Chapter 2: Solutions to the "Bore-Out"

Fortunately, there are solutions to the often misdiagnosed “bore-out.”

Before we can provide solutions, however, we have to go to the root of the problem. Begin by asking yourself introspective questions. The first question to ask oneself is why am I experiencing these feelings? The next question to ask yourself is what has happened in my life which has contributed to these feelings? Be honest with yourself to ensure an accurate self-analysis. Is it your current job that is bringing you all of this discomfort? Are you in toxic relationships? Do you find yourself surrounded by discouraging environments?

What you have placed before you is a giant [metaphorical] mountain. This mountain is comprised of fears including a myriad of self-limiting beliefs. Examples of fear-based, self-limiting beliefs are whenever you run dialogue through your mind that sounds anything similar to the following:

I am not smart, attractive, qualified, or talented enough.

I am not going to try because I will fail or get rejected, and I don’t want to feel like a failure.

I am afraid of what people will think of me.

I do not have enough resources (i.e., money, time, followers) to achieve my heart’s desires.

After you have gotten to the core or the seed of the problem, it is time to take massive action. Once you have identified what it is that is causing you so much displeasure in your life, you can move forward in a positive, upward trajectory. To do so, however, you have to make a decision. You need to decide at this moment that you are ready for a change. You must be prepared to embrace the fruits of a fresh, new life!

Pronounce these affirmations to yourself. Say “I am ready to make a change in my life. I, and only I am responsible for my happiness and quality of life. I am making the choice to improve my current circumstances.”

Some steps you can take to place yourself back on path are as follows:

-Find, join, and establish a support group. This can be a local support group in your city, or you can reach out to friends and family. The latter allows you to be in an environment with people you already know and trust. Open yourself up to sharing your feelings, and expressing yourself and the rollercoaster ride taking place within.

-Identify your “happy hobbies.” What activities do you like to do? How do you want to express yourself? Make a list of hobbies that bring you joy. If you can’t think of anything, reflect on how you spent your time as a young child. Did you like to draw, paint or write? Would you roller-skate, ride a bike, surf? Have you always wanted to try rock climbing, sewing, or learn how to cook? Once you make this list, start to engage in these activities in your free time to increase the levels of happiness and pleasure in your brain.

-Lastly, seek help with a coach. There are coaches who specialize in all walks of life from career and business, diet, and fitness, to relationships and love. You can hire a life coach to help you regain balance and purpose. These professionals will work with you to recognize your current problems, and establish an intentional path for you to walk to become your most revitalized, prosperous, and happiest self!

Once you take hold of your life, you empower yourself. You are driving your life in the direction of your choosing. Do not stay in bumper to bumper traffic, when there is another route with absolutely no traffic! Make a choice to hop off of the monotonous, dull pathway, and steer yourself into a direction of light and delight, and everything will indeed be all right!

Sylvie de Gil

www.coachingcenterforwomen.com

sylviedegil@coachingcenterforwomen.com