Bridging the Perception Gap

Katharine D´Amico, PhD

Harvard Duesto Magazine

May 2024

Leadership and communication are indeed two sides of the same coin; one cannot exist without the other. Effective communication is the cornerstone of influential leadership. It empowers leaders to motivate and inspire, to share a clear and compelling vision, and to foster an environment of transparency and of trust. Through strategic communication, leaders can drive change, champion innovation, and build a culture that reflects the organization's values and goals. Moreover, it allows leaders to demonstrate authenticity and integrity, which are vital for establishing credibility and to building strong relationships. Ultimately, the art of leadership communication lies in the ability to not only convey a message but to connect, engage, and move people towards a common purpose. It is through this mastery that leaders can achieve the outcomes they desire and lead their teams to success.

In the modern professional landscape, communication skills are indeed indispensable, serving as the linchpin for effective management and operations. As organizations navigate the complexities of globalization and digital transformation, the ability to articulate ideas clearly, persuade stakeholders, and foster meaningful connections is paramount. This multifaceted competence encompasses not only verbal and written communication but also mastery of non-verbal cues, emotional intelligence, and the capacity to adapt messages for diverse decision makers. In essence, communication acts as a strategic asset, influencing decision-making, shaping organizational culture, and driving innovation. As such, developing communication skills is not merely beneficial but crucial for professionals seeking to excel in their roles and contribute to their organization's success. In the words of Jack Modzelewksi in Talk is Chief, ´Communication aligns organizations, supports strong and transparent cultures and is vital to respond to both opportunities and threats´.

The only difference between the failure or success of any idea, mediocre or great, is the way in which the idea was communicated.

Effective communication is indeed a complex skill that intertwines various aspects of leadership and personal development. It's challenging because it requires not only the ability to convey information clearly and confidently but also the capacity to listen, adapt, and respond to denial and resistance.  Communication is not just about language; it's about understanding the context, emotional intelligence, body language, and the ability to read between the lines. It's a skill that demands continuous learning and practice, as every interaction presents a new set of audience mindsets. The nuances of tone, timing, and delivery can greatly influence how a message is perceived. Moreover, the diversity of audiences and the multiplicity of platforms for communication today add layers of complexity. Leaders must navigate all of these challenges to foster trust, inspire teams, and drive change. So, we could say that mastering the art of communication is a lifelong journey that makes the difference between a good leader and a really great one. Leaders, afterall, are not born, they are made.

´We are all born into the same reality and live our lives in our own distortions of it´ Woody Allen

 The complexities of human communication are indeed profound. Expectations, shaped by individual experiences, habits, values and beliefs, heavily influence our perception of reality. This subjective nature of perception often leads to misunderstandings, as each individual interprets messages through their unique lens – speaker included. The simple fact is that how we communicate matters, and effective communication is not solely dependent on the clarity of the message but also on the receiver's current state of mind, preconceived notions, and above all, emotional state.

 To bridge the gap between message and interpretation, it is crucial to consider the audience's perspective, crafting messages that resonate both emotionally and logically, because our brains mediate information, organizing it in a way that makes sense to us. Striking a balance between the emotional and rational appeal can enhance understanding and motivate action. Moreover, engaging delivery plays a huge role in capturing attention and to keeping it.

 Perceptions are unconscious and emotional, and you are biased.

 The intricate dance of communication is indeed a complex one, where the steps are not merely dictated by the factual correctness of the message but also by the intricate interplay of the sender´s and receiver´s habits, beliefs and values. The sender's intent and the receiver's interpretation can often be worlds apart, leading to a chasm that is widened by personal biases, complexity, and lack of context. Examples of bias which lead to a perception gap are cognitive biases, such as confirmation bias, where we cherry pick information that confirms our existing habits, values and beliefs; and the stereotype bias, which colors our perception based on generalized beliefs about certain groups. The brain relies on shortcuts all the time. We use what we’ve learned from our environment to make quick assumptions about whom to trust, how to behave, what to say. In the words of Harvard Professor of Psychology, Dr. Mahzarin R. Banaji, ´What we think we see out there in the world is not always what’s really there. As infants, we discover who is safe and trustworthy by recognizing the types of people who surround us. We often see that we are surrounded by the people who look like us. Therefore, those types of people must be trustworthy. Infant minds pick up patterns about people in the world, influencing their expectations of who is good or bad. As we grow up, these early biases crystallize into two different forms. On the one hand, we have our implicit biases. These biases are automatic; they happen so fast we may not even notice them. Throughout the rest of our lives, these biases will be reinforced from our individual experiences and the people around us´. These biases distort the message for our audience, leading to selective understanding. It's a reminder of the need for self-awareness and the importance of striving for clarity and empathy in our interactions to bridge the perception gaps in understanding.

 The emotional brain gets the first vote.

 Emotions play a significant role in perception and communication. Emotional states such as stress, anger, or anxiety are the lens through which we interpret messages, leading to heightened sensitivity or defensiveness and denial. Emotional reactions can escalate conflicts and hinder effective communication. What´s more, the emotional significance that your brain associates with an event or an idea correlate to its success - or its failure. Emotions are chemicals, triggered in great part by verbal and non-verbal cues, intended or not.

 An example of this could be a very competent leader who wishes to lead her team into a transition to AI. She prepares her message thoroughly, with details of the processes, stages, expected results and the roadmap to transition. She fails, however, to take into consideration that her audience does not think like she does, and for them, this change is a perceived threat. Top of mind in the brains of her listeners is first and foremost ´what am I going to lose´ before any gain, benefit or advantage. The emotion she triggers is not motivation or inspiration as she hopes, but hard-core stress, stemming from the perception that her audience stands to lose by incorporating AI into their processes. Result? A massive perception gap, failure to motivate and inspire, and a very slow costly transition process.  

 The scenario described highlights the critical importance of emotional intelligence in leadership and change management. Emotions indeed serve as a powerful undercurrent in organizational dynamics, influencing how messages are received and how or if they are acted upon. A leader's ability to anticipate, recognize, and consider the emotional elements of a message can make the difference between inspiring action and flat-out resistance. In the case of transitioning to AI, it is essential for leaders to not only present the logical measurable aspects of the idea but also to include engage the audience's emotions, such as fear of loss and uncertainty. By aligning both the emotional and rational aspects, leaders can bridge the perception gap and foster an environment where innovation is embraced rather than feared, appealing to all parts of the brain involved in decision making.

 Decisions are not made based on facts alone.

 Emotions indeed play a crucial role in human cognition and behavior. They are not just reactions, but also constructions of the brain´s limbic system that help us navigate our social environment. To influence emotions effectively, one must understand the triggers of certain neurochemicals for desired behavior. Communication that is empathetic, authentic, and resonates with the listener's personal experiences can trigger the desired neurochemical response. Storytelling is a powerful tool in this regard, as it can connect on a human level, invoking empathy and understanding. Afterall, the brain is a story processor, not a data processor. Additionally, acknowledging the emotions of others can foster trust and influence decision-making. It's about showing you understand their position, for a shared emotional experience that aligns with the message you want to convey because audiences listen in self-interest.

 Preferences and Perceptions

 Understanding and acknowledging the perspective of others is fundamental to effective communication. The 'perception gap' often arises when individuals project their own beliefs and preferences onto others, assuming these to be universally shared. This leads to misunderstandings and a breakdown in communication. To bridge this gap, it is essential to actively listen and seek to understand the unique viewpoints and motivations of others. By doing so, we can tailor our communication to resonate more effectively with our audience. It's a dynamic process that requires empathy, adaptability, and the recognition that our own perspective is just one of a myriad of ways of looking at an idea. This approach not only enhances interpersonal interactions but also enriches our understanding of the diverse world around us.

 Communication is not just about what is said but also how it is interpreted.

 The concept of a perception gap is indeed a significant challenge in communication, highlighting the complexity of human interactions. It underscores the importance of clarity, empathy, and active listening in our exchanges with others. To bridge this gap, it is essential to seek common ground, clarify intentions, and ensure that the message is not only transmitted but also received as intended. This requires a proactive approach to communication, where feedback is encouraged, and differences in understanding are addressed promptly. Where master communicators prepare for this proactively, inviting and anticipating denial and resistance. In a world of diverse perspectives, the ability to navigate and narrow the perception gap is a powerful skill, and crucial to a leader´s personal and professional reputation.

 Perceptions are as important as the facts.

 For the brain, believing is as good as knowing. Great leaders understand that as complex beings we have both emotional and rational needs that need satisfying. Research in social neuroscience underscores a fundamental truth: just as with our ancient ancestors dwelling in caves, the modern human brain remains wired for survival, navigating the world through the lens of 'threats and rewards'. Continuously scanning both our physical surroundings, such as the workplace, and our social interactions, our brains seek out anything that could be interpreted as a potential threat or reward. This primal instinct shapes our perceptions and behaviors, influencing how we interact with our environment and who we trust.

 Upon perceiving a reward, our brains initiate an automatic neural chemical response that propels us towards that perceived benefit, plunging us into a state of neurological engagement. In this coveted 'reward state,' we harness our cognitive faculties to their fullest potential. We become adept at problem-solving, effective communication, deciphering others' intentions, navigating adversity, strategic planning, fostering creativity, exercising sound judgment, enhancing memory retention, and making more effective decisions.

 Upon perceiving a threat, our cognitive capabilities are significantly compromised. Tasks such as problem-solving, communication, situational assessment, future planning, consequence evaluation, information recall, and decision-making are all hindered. In this stress state of heightened alertness, even basic routine actions become challenging as the brain struggles to navigate the perceived threat, and allocate resources to thinking and reacting. This frantic response impairs our ability to perform at our peak, inhibiting optimal cognitive function.

 Communication is both the cause and the solution to the perception gap

The modern workplace, where change and uncertainty are constant, presents numerous challenges that can lead to a heightened neurochemical state of stress. The neurological impact of such an environment cannot be overstated, as it often hinders an individual's ability to perform optimally. To mitigate these effects, a shift in communication strategy is essential. Leadership communication that prioritizes the audience´s reality can stimulate the production of neurochemicals like oxytocin, which in turn promotes a more cooperative and supportive work culture. This approach to communication not only alleviates stress but also enhances overall productivity and trust. Trust is the cornerstone of business. It’s the basis of every human relationship, every interaction, every communication, every initiative, every work project and even any strategic imperative a leader needs to accomplish. And it is the reason audiences believe and follow a leader. By fostering a culture of kindness and mutual respect, leaders can create a more resilient and adaptive workforce, capable of thriving in the face of uncertainty and complexity, in mutual trust.

 Social and Language are inseparable

 Language indeed serves as a fundamental instrument for social dynamics. It extends beyond mere words to include gestures, facial expressions, and body language, all of which convey nuanced messages and emotions. The acquisition of language skills begins in early childhood, developing progressively through interactions within a child´s social surroundings. This complex system of communication is not only essential for the exchange of information but also for the establishment of social values, beliefs and cultural identity. Through language, individuals negotiate their roles within society, express their individuality, and exert influence. It is through this intricate interplay of language and social interaction that individuals learn to interpret and respond to the world around them. We can say that language, both verbal and non verbal, manages our social relationships. And it is through language that we mutually evaluate each other´s confidence and competence.

 Does the language you speak affect your perceptions of the world?

 The linguistic relativity hypothesis, often associated with the work of Edward Sapir and Benjamin Lee Whorf, posits a profound connection between language and thought. This concept suggests that the language one speaks can influence one's perception of reality and cognitive processes. For instance, so, if you ask German speaker to describe a bridge, which is grammatically feminine in German, they are more likely to use stereotypically feminine words, like ´beautiful´, or ´elegant´. If, on the other hand, you ask a Spanish speaker to describe a bridge, which is grammatically masculine in Spanish, speakers will be more likely to use masculine words, like ´strong´ and ´long´. The research of Lera Boroditsky, cognitive scientist and professor in the fields of language and cognition at the University of San Diego, California has provided new insights into the controversial question of whether the languages we speak actually shape the way we think about the world and others in it. Her studies reveal that linguistic structures can affect how individuals conceptualize time, space, and even our biases. While the extent of this hypothesis is still a subject of academic debate, the implications of such findings are vast, suggesting that language not only reflects, but also constructs, our perception of reality.

 How to bridge the perception gap: WIIFM*

*WIIFM – what´s in it for me?

 How do you get it right? Ask yourself: ´What is top of mind for my audience?´  ´What does my audience know now, and what don´t they know?´ These simple questions will help you measure how well your audience's reported memories match your core intended messages. As a result, you will know what to adjust in your content, and more importantly, how to manage audience perceptions. Effective communication transcends the mere transmission of information; it's about ensuring that the core message not only reaches the audience but also resonates with them long after the interaction. The key lies in crafting a narrative that aligns with the audience's habits values and beliefs, thereby enhancing what they will remember. In essence, the art of communication is ensuring that the core message becomes a part of the audience's cognitive framework. Audiences will act upon what they remember, not on what they forget.

 Bridge the perception gap for memorable communication.

In the words of Nancy Duarte, ´The audience does not need to tune themselves to you—you need to tune your message to them. Skilled presenting requires you to understand their hearts and minds and create a message to resonate with what’s already there´.  Why should they listen to you in the first place?

To ensure your message resonates with your audience, it's essential to align your content with their habits, values and beliefs. Understanding these will allow you to tailor your message so that it's not only relevant but also compelling. Your message should provide value, whether it's in the form of solutions, insights, or new perspectives. Answering 'why' they should listen is about highlighting the benefits they can gain from listening to you. It's about making a connection between your message and the audience's aspirations or problems. When your audience sees that your message aligns with their own objectives or offers a resolution to their issues, they are more likely to trust, engage and listen attentively.

Leaders often overlook communicating ´why´ for two key reasons:

1.      They assume explaining what and how is the fastest way to influence their audience.

2.      They think the answer to why is so self-evident and it doesn’t need unpacking.

Result? A Perception Gap. Answering “why” often leads to a benefit from the action you’re asking people to take, and your message suddenly matters.

Here´s how.

10 Communication Behaviors to Bridge the Perception Gap

1 -Ask some good what questions

What is at stake if we do or do not do this?

When aiming to engage with an audience, consider asking open-ended questions that encourage participation and thoughtful responses. Here are some examples:

“What’s is the most important part of this idea for you?”

“What’s are you most worried about?”

These questions invite personal stories, create a sense of connection, and encourage audience members to share their experiences. Remember to align your message with their answers.

2- Follow up with ´because´.

Just considering the why isn’t enough. Providing clear reasons and actionable insights helps drive meaningful change and progress. When evaluating decisions or proposing improvements, it’s essential to move beyond just the “why” and delve into the specifics.

For example, “We need to improve our process, because ____.”

1.      “We need to improve our customer service response time, because our current average wait time frustrates customers and affects satisfaction scores.”

2.     “Let’s enhance our website’s user experience, because the current layout lacks intuitive navigation, leading to higher bounce rates.”

3.     “We should invest in employee training programs, because our team lacks proficiency in the latest software tools, hindering productivity.”

4.     “Our marketing strategy needs adjustment, because our recent campaigns haven’t effectively reached our target market.”

3- State alternate perspectives.

By sharing the ideas that you considered, explored, tested, and then abandoned, you’ll demonstrate that you’ve thought through all the possibilities.

For example

´Although many argue that increased government intervention stifles economic growth, others contend that targeted regulations are necessary to protect consumers and prevent exploitation by corporations´

´While implementing new workplace policies may face initial resistance from employees accustomed to the old ways, it's crucial to emphasize the benefits and long-term positive outcomes to garner support and facilitate smoother transitions´

4- Recognize Excellence

Influential communication means that the largest effect on emotions and on trust is when recognition occurs immediately after a goal has been met, when it comes from peers, and when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal, and public.

For example:

“Mike, your growth in project management has been remarkable. Your ability to streamline processes and meet deadlines has positively impacted on our team’s efficiency. Keep up the excellent work”

“Our customer service team consistently receives glowing feedback. Today, we honor Emma, who resolved a complex issue with empathy and professionalism.

“As our department head, Mark has demonstrated exceptional leadership. His clear communication, strategic vision, and ability to empower the team have been instrumental in our success.”

“Let’s recognize our R&D team for their groundbreaking ideas. Their creativity and willingness to explore new solutions have positioned us as industry innovators.”

“Sophia consistently supports her colleagues, helping and fostering a positive work environment. Her teamwork and adaptability make her an invaluable asset.”

Remember, a well-crafted recognition speech not only celebrates achievements but also inspires others to strive for excellence, because brains perceive this as a reward.

5- Simplify

Vague, complex or impossible messages cause people to give up before they even start, which is a phenomenon called decision paralysis. No one trusts someone they don´t understand. Let’s explore some real-world examples of complex messages and how they can be simplified for better communication:

Before (Complex Message):

“Our quarterly financial report indicates a significant deviation from the projected revenue due to unforeseen market fluctuations, increased operational costs, and changes in consumer behavior patterns.”

After (Simplified Message):

“Our revenue fell short this quarter due to unexpected market changes and higher costs.”

Before (Complex Message):

“The proposed organizational restructuring involves cross-functional realignment, role redefinition, and process optimization to enhance operational efficiency and resource allocation.”

After (Simplified Message):

“We’re streamlining teams and processes to work more efficiently.”

It is easier to be complex. By simplifying you are showing confidence. Executives are afraid to be simple, because they believe that simple is synonymous with lazy. Simple does not mean superficial. Simple is memorable.

6- Clarify

With your messages, a way to ensure you are being clear, is to be specific. The more tangible a message is, the clearer it is for everyone, and there is no gap to overcome in misunderstandings, no matter what the language is.

A real example:

Before (vague, unclear):

In the context of the contemporary market dynamics and considering the multifaceted nature of the global economic infrastructure, it is conceivable that the strategic alignment of business operations with the fluctuating indices of financial markets could potentially yield a favorable outcome in terms of capital accumulation and stakeholder value enhancement.

After (clear and specific):

Aligning our business strategy with current market trends can increase profits and shareholder value.

7- Communicate with transparency.

Your audience needs to know what you know, especially if you are an expert, and they are not. Openness and radical transparency in communication is the antidote to a stressful half message, leaving audiences wondering ´why´. Transparent communication is essential, especially when you possess expertise that others may not fully understand.

Here are some real examples of how to communicate transparently:

Public Knowledge Salaries (Buffer):

Concealing salary information can lead to resentment and speculation. Buffer publicly shares salary details, ensuring everyone knows what their colleagues earn.

Weekly Town Halls (Atlassian):

Siloed teams lack visibility into each other’s work. Atlassian hosts weekly town halls where teams share progress, challenges, and learnings across departments.

GMO Transparency (Whole Foods):

Consumers wonder about genetically modified organisms (GMOs) in their food. Whole Foods labels GMO-containing products transparently, empowering informed choices.

Open Email Inboxes (Stripe):

Hidden email conversations create confusion and inefficiency. Stripe allows employees to access any colleague’s email inbox, promoting transparency and collaboration.

Open Book Access (Zappos):

Vendors lack insight into their performance metrics. Zappos provides vendors with open book access, fostering trust and alignment.

Salary Transparency (Stack Overflow):

Job candidates wonder about fair compensation. Stack Overflow shares salary ranges upfront during hiring, promoting transparency.

Annual Reports (Mailchimp):

Employees may speculate about company health. Mailchimp publishes annual reports, sharing financials and strategic direction.

Power to Your People (Asana):

Decisions made behind closed doors create uncertainty. Asana empowers employees to make decisions, fostering transparency and accountability.

Remember, radical transparency builds trust, reduces stress, and ensures everyone is on the same page.

8- Repeat – and repeat often

Repetition is an intuitive guideline when it comes to memory, because what's reinforced is more likely to stick. Despite this, professionals avoid repetition for several reasons: They believe that repetitive messages sound too remedial, or that their audiences can hear something once and assume they remember it later. If you show or say something only once (unless it has shocking quality), it's unlikely to stick. People forget quickly, so if you want them to remember your message, repeat it.

Repetition: the secret sauce to cognitive memory. So, if you want your message to stick like gum on a shoe, serve it up more than once. After all, we tend to judge repeated messages as more truthful. So, repeat your core idea, and then repeat again.

9- Include the rational and the emotional appeal

The emotional brain acts as the filter for the rational cortex, so how an audience feels will dictate a lot about the success of your idea, what they decide, and whether they feel it is relevant to keep listening. The rational message will seal the deal with credibility for your idea.

The emotional brain is like the bouncer at the club of your mind, deciding which rational thoughts get to cut the line and which ones have to wait outside. If the audience's emotional bouncer is nodding along to your idea's tune, then the rational cortex is more likely to give it a VIP pass. So, if you want your idea to be the life of the party, make sure it triggers the right neurochemicals for the right emotions first, and then let the rationality do the smooth talking.

10 –Make meaning.

Emotional contagion is a form of social contagion that involves the spontaneous spread of emotions and related behaviors, and words alone won´t do it. So you need to feel what you want your audience to feel for maximum impact.

If leaders are not motivating, inspiring, and driving the desired behaviors, how can they expect to lead? A leader´s strengths and communication style can be a game changer. Leaders stand between the ´now´ and the ´next´ and the way leaders shape their future and motivate others to follow them is through mastering communication. Success is something given to you by others. So, bridging the perception gap matters.

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